Hi Everyone,
This continues my series on Marriage. Now, for Surviving the Wedding Guerrilla Style!
3) Ready, set, plan!
A great way to get ideas for your wedding is to go to bridal events. Most malls hold them and they are a fantastic way to get acquainted with local vendors. Plus, you can be entered into giveaways and contests for services!
As you are planning, one of the first things you need to understand is that this day is about the two of you. It is not about your parents, family or friends. Sure, you want them to enjoy themselves at your wedding, but you also want to create a memorable moment with your fiancé.
During the planning stages, everyone will have an opinion on what you should do. From the flowers to the cake, you will have so many ideas coming at you- you may feel like you are in an avalanche. As well-meaning as these suggestions are, they can be a little overwhelming.
Try to keep it in perspective that ultimately this day belongs to you and your fiancé. Your parents had their wedding. You don’t have to do things their way just because they think it is the right way. And remember, there is no right or wrong way to plan a wedding. In the end, it will be a day you will remember for the rest of your life. You don’t want to remember it as a day that you did what everyone else wanted and forgot about your own desires.
3) Can I disinvite everyone?
As you get closer and closer to the big day, the demands will get more stressful. From “remember that Aunt Mary can’t sit next to Aunt Gladys” to “don’t forget that Uncle Bill has a new girlfriend”, for some reason it will be up to you to mend family squabbles and keep the peace in the family with your wedding. It won’t matter that you never met Uncle Bill’s girlfriend or that you haven’t seen Uncle Bill in ten years. Your family will want to make sure that everyone is included so that it doesn’t “look bad.” These discussions can easily become heated, especially as the guest list continues to rise and you suddenly have no room for people that you want to have there.
My suggestion is to separate the “want to invites” from the “have to invites.” Make a list of people that you feel absolutely must be there. Then, get rid of a few “have to’s.” Don’t ruin your big day by not inviting the people you want there. And try to remember that one day will never cure past family squabbles. It is impossible. Family happiness
should not depend solely on your wedding day. It is too much pressure for anyone to bear.
3) Ready, set, plan!
A great way to get ideas for your wedding is to go to bridal events. Most malls hold them and they are a fantastic way to get acquainted with local vendors. Plus, you can be entered into giveaways and contests for services!
As you are planning, one of the first things you need to understand is that this day is about the two of you. It is not about your parents, family or friends. Sure, you want them to enjoy themselves at your wedding, but you also want to create a memorable moment with your fiancé.
During the planning stages, everyone will have an opinion on what you should do. From the flowers to the cake, you will have so many ideas coming at you- you may feel like you are in an avalanche. As well-meaning as these suggestions are, they can be a little overwhelming.
Try to keep it in perspective that ultimately this day belongs to you and your fiancé. Your parents had their wedding. You don’t have to do things their way just because they think it is the right way. And remember, there is no right or wrong way to plan a wedding. In the end, it will be a day you will remember for the rest of your life. You don’t want to remember it as a day that you did what everyone else wanted and forgot about your own desires.
3) Can I disinvite everyone?
As you get closer and closer to the big day, the demands will get more stressful. From “remember that Aunt Mary can’t sit next to Aunt Gladys” to “don’t forget that Uncle Bill has a new girlfriend”, for some reason it will be up to you to mend family squabbles and keep the peace in the family with your wedding. It won’t matter that you never met Uncle Bill’s girlfriend or that you haven’t seen Uncle Bill in ten years. Your family will want to make sure that everyone is included so that it doesn’t “look bad.” These discussions can easily become heated, especially as the guest list continues to rise and you suddenly have no room for people that you want to have there.
My suggestion is to separate the “want to invites” from the “have to invites.” Make a list of people that you feel absolutely must be there. Then, get rid of a few “have to’s.” Don’t ruin your big day by not inviting the people you want there. And try to remember that one day will never cure past family squabbles. It is impossible. Family happiness should not depend solely on your wedding day. It is too much pressure for anyone to bear.
I hope you have a great weekend,
Shauna Hart