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The Pleasure of Sin (Club X, #1)

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Hi Everyone,

Have you ever wondered why your friends and family don't like the person you are dating?  Well, you might be the problem! Check out my blog Watch What you Say!

Watch what you say…

When I was younger, I would tell my mom every time I fought with my boyfriend.   At the time, I didn’t think anything of it.  After all, my mom was my best friend.  But pretty soon, I started to realize that my mom was developing an intense dislike of my boyfriend.  This especially hurt when we were in the good times and I was head over heels in love with him.  

As a young girl, I couldn’t understand why she didn’t see all of the wonderful things about him.  As a woman, I understand it perfectly.

The problem was me.

The more I told her about our fights, the more she got angry about the way he hurt me.

She was my mother.  All she wanted to do was protect me from getting hurt, and she saw him as the person that was hurting me. 

Part of the problem was that there was no balance.  When we were happy and in love, I didn’t have anything to say.  I might mention something he bought me or say something in passing, but when the tears came I would pour out my heart and soul over every little thing that happened.  So, in her eyes, the majority of what I told her about him was bad.

Try to remember that everything you say to family and friends about your relationship goes up on the scoreboard.  That means that every time you call him a name or say how badly he treats you, your family and friends remember it.   It may be possible that you didn’t really mean what you said and that you were just venting, but your family and friends don’t know that.  You may want to forget all about the fight you had, but your family and friends will be your constant memory.  And eventually, you will get upset with them for the way they feel about your partner.  But the truth is that you have no one to blame but yourself.

That is why it is very important that you are careful about what you say to them.   

 Have a great week,

Shauna Hart

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